Long long night with you

Man, Katelyn was up from 12:30-3:30 last night. She will cry really loud until you come in and then she will cry every half an hour until she stops, my husband was really good and went in there 3 times and I went in 2. Somehow he can go back to sleep and so can I until she cries again and then I'm up and then in and out of sleep, so at 2 I said "we should just bring her in her with us" and he said "I don't like that because I think she kind of expects that" and I snapped and said " no she does not" and he said "don't get snappy with me". This is my worst down fall if the kids are driving me crazy then I'm upset with my husband and visa versa, not good. Really really trying to work on that, because in both situations it is not fair to the other party. But, when he says stuff like that I feel like he is accusing me of doing something horribly wrong or that I'm going to somehow damage the kids and I get defensive. Talk about over reaction:). I'm so guarded about my mothering ability because more often then not I feel like I'm not doing something right or that I'm way too impatient or I'm over reacting all the time. I know that we all feel like this sometimes, but since my kids are so close in age I'm trying to be more conscience of the words and actions that I choose because they pick up everything!!
Emily